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That feeling of getting off on forcing someone else to admit that THEY're getting off on you abusing them. Is there a name for that? There should be.
When she is most comfortable & contented is when I am most likely to feel...neglected. And when she is terrified that I'm angry with her is when I'm most pleased with the fervency of her efforts.I'm not exactly comfortable with this awareness. Being a GUILTY Humiliator I don't like the thought that someone else's REAL unhappiness is required for me to be happy. But there it is.
Finally, your last category, the Insecure. I certainly would not LIKE to think of myself as coming from this motive-set in choosing a D/s lifestyle. And considering the matter rationally I don't think I am. For one thing, I really came into my own power as a domme AFTER I'd faced all sorts of other trials that tested my self-confidence. Becoming a domme was an outgrowth of that newfound power & maturity for me.
And I wonder at this point if the POLYAMOROUS &/or SWINGING domme might not merit her own category. Because there is also that lustto experience new & different things, to have exciting sexual adventures, that strongly drives some of us.
The HEDONISTHer daily life may be physically gruelling or involve a lot of caring for others. She uses her D/s role as a way of balancing that. She's likely to take pleasure in going out to fetish clubs & scene events, and in dressing the part when she does. (This is distinct from those with e.g. a leather or latex fetish whose attire is reflective of their fetish.) Our Hedonist domme is playing a grown up game of make-believe and her attire & recreational activities are part of the game. She'll be pleased by the same sorts of things as the Pampered and Goddess types. But this type will likely be especially appreciative/demanding of useful service that eases her everyday stress, eg running errands, doing house or yardwork, and will reward such service with extra attention, playtime & kinky imaginativeness. She may also be especially reticent about letting you get close; the escapism that motivates her is a reflection of her sense of responsibility.
I think it needs to be added that whichever of these categories is present, and which "type" of domme a woman seems to be, ALSO depends on the sub she is with. My style now is pretty heavy on the "Humiliator" and light on the "Sadist" because my slave goes crazy for erotic embarassment and does not like much pain. It's a reinforcing cycle...I enjoy a certain sort of reaction, so I do the things he responds best to, and those things become more central in our relationship.But I can be very different with other partners. I've had a pain slut that I was all Sadist with, and I've another sissy sub who annoys me so frequently that my attitude/behavior with him borders on the Man-Hater. Granted, neither of those boys would be serious candidates for a 24/7 D/s relationship with me. But then a LOT of subguys who are searching for a domme are not looking for 24/7.